The secret of a ceremony is actually within you and it's about who you really are, embracing yourself with your own power, which comes straight from your heart and has always been there.
You just have to trust yourself and your own higher guidance.
So you really don't need a facilitator to do a ceremony, it's in you!
However, there is much to be said about group energy. The one that resides within us collectively and offers more capacity, resilience, innovation and creativity than drinking alone. With the collective consciousness, our own field is definitely multiplied and the fear, the problems or the challenges are shared. So gather with a group of friends, make your space as comfortable as possible, think about your intentions, play well-matched music that suits your mood (or no music), drink the holy cocoa, move, feel you, shines and transcends you.
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